My wedding.
I need help, I think (really...as if THATs news!). I just cannot decide what to do about the wedding. SOMEthing needs to be decided...like....two weeks ago. So...my dilemma:
Okay. so. I think that we have narrowed it down to IF we are going to do the whole wedding thing, it will be here in KY instead of AZ. Logically, that just makes sense, than we dont have to worry about planning two events and trying to find two different places. It is pretty for sure that we will have both the wedding and the reception in the same place...just cause, well...there wont be a church, and anywhere I would want to have a wedding, I would want to have the reception. I would LIKE to have the wedding AND the reception outside. Although, thats tricky with the time of year we are looking at, nothing is a guarantee I suppose though.
ANYway...the dilemma. SO, when I first started trying to plan a wedding, my mom and dad said that they would pay for anything. I mean, the place that I REALLY wanted to have the wedding, we were going in to put money down...alas, the time of year got in the way, and it didnt work out. Now, my parents are changing their tune and saying that they are going to give us an allotted amount of money, and we can either spend it on a wedding, or we can take it and run. The prospect of having a beautiful wedding is MUCH more alluring when its not my money being spent on it. Once that money becomes mine, its like "hmmm...do we REALLY need all this wedding stuff?". The dilemma.
Okay, so it has gotten to the point of just saying elope and dont deal with any of this stuff. THEN we run into, where...and when are we going to have time to do that with summer weddings and concerts and time off. Its looking like an elopement wouldnt take place until August or October anyway...so why not PLAN a wedding? and THEN to add to all of that (and some of you may think that this is stupid), I told Jonathon when we first started getting really serious, and when I moved here, that I wouldnt move in with him until we said "i do". Now, at the time it was something that I was pretty set on...but, I had never had a serious boyfriend before. So through the months and the last year, my feelings on that have changed a little. I mean...yes, I spend most nights at his place anyway. So, in the grand scheme of things, living with him wouldnt be THAT much different (it WOULD be different though) than what is going on now....except that I told him my boundaries a long time ago. It has become more of a "i have to uphold MY word." type thing. Not to mention, I have parents that would not be happy (at ALL) if their daughter was living with her boyfriend before they got married. AND to top it all off, Jon's grandmother said that she was proud of us for not living together before marriage.
So, the dilemma? Well...choose to have the wedding in October at this really nice place here in KY, but...what do we do about the living together situation that WILL arise come July when Jon's lease runs out? OR elope, not have the nice wedding, try and squeeze a wedding in sometime during June/July so that we dont have to deal with the living together issue.
THATs the dilemma.
I need help.
I need help, I think (really...as if THATs news!). I just cannot decide what to do about the wedding. SOMEthing needs to be decided...like....two weeks ago. So...my dilemma:
Okay. so. I think that we have narrowed it down to IF we are going to do the whole wedding thing, it will be here in KY instead of AZ. Logically, that just makes sense, than we dont have to worry about planning two events and trying to find two different places. It is pretty for sure that we will have both the wedding and the reception in the same place...just cause, well...there wont be a church, and anywhere I would want to have a wedding, I would want to have the reception. I would LIKE to have the wedding AND the reception outside. Although, thats tricky with the time of year we are looking at, nothing is a guarantee I suppose though.
ANYway...the dilemma. SO, when I first started trying to plan a wedding, my mom and dad said that they would pay for anything. I mean, the place that I REALLY wanted to have the wedding, we were going in to put money down...alas, the time of year got in the way, and it didnt work out. Now, my parents are changing their tune and saying that they are going to give us an allotted amount of money, and we can either spend it on a wedding, or we can take it and run. The prospect of having a beautiful wedding is MUCH more alluring when its not my money being spent on it. Once that money becomes mine, its like "hmmm...do we REALLY need all this wedding stuff?". The dilemma.
Okay, so it has gotten to the point of just saying elope and dont deal with any of this stuff. THEN we run into, where...and when are we going to have time to do that with summer weddings and concerts and time off. Its looking like an elopement wouldnt take place until August or October anyway...so why not PLAN a wedding? and THEN to add to all of that (and some of you may think that this is stupid), I told Jonathon when we first started getting really serious, and when I moved here, that I wouldnt move in with him until we said "i do". Now, at the time it was something that I was pretty set on...but, I had never had a serious boyfriend before. So through the months and the last year, my feelings on that have changed a little. I mean...yes, I spend most nights at his place anyway. So, in the grand scheme of things, living with him wouldnt be THAT much different (it WOULD be different though) than what is going on now....except that I told him my boundaries a long time ago. It has become more of a "i have to uphold MY word." type thing. Not to mention, I have parents that would not be happy (at ALL) if their daughter was living with her boyfriend before they got married. AND to top it all off, Jon's grandmother said that she was proud of us for not living together before marriage.
So, the dilemma? Well...choose to have the wedding in October at this really nice place here in KY, but...what do we do about the living together situation that WILL arise come July when Jon's lease runs out? OR elope, not have the nice wedding, try and squeeze a wedding in sometime during June/July so that we dont have to deal with the living together issue.
THATs the dilemma.
I need help.
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